Woman urged to 'cancel wedding' after fiancé's co-worker makes wild comment

A woman has been urged to “cancel” her upcoming wedding after overhearing an “inappropriate” comment his co-worker and “work wife” made.

The 29-year-old has been looking forward to “marrying ”, with just a few months away. Despite a few “stressful” moments over the last year of planning the wedding, she described it as a “beautiful” experience.

The only issue is her fiancé’s, 31, colleague and apparent “work wife”, Lily, who has “cast a shadow over everything”. Lily and the bride-to-be’s fiancé have been friends and co-workers for “around five years”.

At first, the woman was relieved her fiancé had a good friend at work and tried to be “cool and understanding” over their bond but over time, she’s found it very difficult to try and “handle” .

Lily, 30, is “a huge part of his life”. They text “constantly” about anything and “everything from work issues to little jokes”. Their friendship “stings” the woman who has come to realise how much her fiancé “turns to her for advice and laughs instead of” her.

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Despite assurances from her fiancé that they’re “just friends” and Lily is merely his “work wife”, it’s left her feeling uneasy. On Reddit, : “It feels like she’s gotten so close that I’m sometimes the one on the outside looking in.”

Lily has chimed in with her opinions while the couple have been wedding planning, even going so far as to tell the bride-to-be she ought to trust her when it came to choosing her wedding dress because she “knew his style”. The woman explained: “I tried to laugh it off, but it hurt more than I wanted to admit. Here I am planning my wedding, and I felt like I had to measure up to her view of who my fiancé is.”

Things took a turn at their recent engagement party, where Lily was “glued” to the woman’s fiancé’s side and whenever she tried to “join their conversations”, Lily would “bring up a work story or inside joke that left her feeling like a third wheel at her own engagement”.

What really upset her, though, was when she heard Lily make a shocking comment: “I walked up just as she was saying, ‘You know, if you change your mind, you could always marry me instead.’ My heart sank. I didn’t know if she was joking or half-serious, but my fiancé laughed, brushing it off like it was no big deal.

“I couldn’t just let it go. I pulled my fiancé aside later that night and told him how inappropriate her comment was. He looked at me, surprised, and said I was ‘taking it too seriously’ and Lily was ‘just playing around.’ I felt like I was going crazy, like maybe I was seeing something that wasn’t there, but… how would anyone be okay hearing that from someone so close to their fiancé?”

Later that night, a drunken Lily asked the woman if she was “really okay” with how close she and her fiancé are because she “can’t imagine him with anyone else”. The woman added: “It felt like a knife to my chest. I wanted to scream, but instead, I just walked away. Later, I told my fiancé I didn’t want her at our wedding, that it was too painful to have someone there who clearly saw herself as part of our relationship.

“He got defensive, saying I was overreacting and letting jealousy ruin a friendship he cherishes. He even implied that uninviting her would ‘damage his reputation’ at work, and now he’s barely talking to me because he says I’m ‘making him choose’ between his best friend and his fiancée.”

Fellow Reddit users rushed to the comments section to share their thoughts. One person said: “1000% cancel everything. Polish your spine and tell them both to FO!!!!”

Another said: “Lily sounds like a conniving b****. I have a few very good male besties. One of them got married about a year ago. I would never DREAM of behaving like that to his now-wife. Honestly, you don't have a work-wife problem, you have a fiance problem.”

A third added: “I am prone to the Reddit ‘dump them’ reflex but I was thinking, ‘honey uninvite yourself from your own wedding rather than the work wife’, because this doesn't feel good.”